Don’t discount the importance of interpersonal skills in the workplace. How you are perceived by your manager and coworkers plays a large role in things as minor as your day-to-day happiness at the office and as major as the future of your career.

No matter how hard you work or how many brilliant ideas you may have, if you can’t connect with the people who work around you, your professional life will suffer. The good news is that there are several concrete things that you can do to improve your social skills and become closer to your colleagues. All of these tools will ultimately help you succeed in today’s working world.

1- Smile. Few people want to be around someone who is always down in the dumps. Do your best to be friendly and upbeat with your coworkers. Maintain a positive, cheerful attitude about work and about life. Smile often. The positive energy you radiate will draw others to you.

2- Be appreciative. Find one positive thing about everyone you work with and let them hear it. Be generous with praise and kind words of encouragement. Say thank you when someone helps you. Make colleagues feel welcome when they call or stop by your office. If you let others know that they are appreciated, they’ll want to give you their best.

3- Pay attention to others. Observe what’s going on in other people’s lives. Acknowledge their happy milestones, and express concern and sympathy for difficult situations such as an illness or death. Make eye contact and address people by their first names. Ask others for their opinions.

4- Practice active listening. To actively listen is to demonstrate that you intend to hear and understand another’s point of view. It means restating, in your own words, what the other person has said. In this way, you know that you understood their meaning and they know that your responses are more than lip service. Your coworkers will appreciate knowing that you really do listen to what they have to say.

5- Bring people together. Create an environment that encourages others to work together. Treat everyone equally, and don't play favorites. Avoid talking about others behind their backs. Follow up on other people's suggestions or requests. When you make a statement or announcement, check to see that you have been understood. If folks see you as someone solid and fair, they will grow to trust you.

6- Resolve conflicts. Take a step beyond simply bringing people together, and become someone who resolves conflicts when they arise. Learn how to be an effective mediator. If coworkers bicker over personal or professional disagreements, arrange to sit down with both parties and help sort out their differences. By taking on such a leadership role, you will garner respect and admiration from those around you.

7- Communicate clearly. Pay close attention to both what you say and how you say it. A clear and effective communicator avoids misunderstandings with coworkers, collegues, and associates. Verbal eloquence projects an image of intelligence and maturity, no matter what your age. If you tend to blurt out anything that comes to mind, people won’t put much weight on your words or opinions.

8- Humor them. Don’t be afraid to be funny or clever. Most people are drawn to a person that can make them laugh. Use your sense of humor as an effective tool to lower barriers and gain people’s affection.

9- See it from their side. Empathy means being able to put yourself in someone else’s shoes and understand how they feel. Try to view situations and responses from another person’s perspective. This can be accomplished through staying in touch with your own emotions; those who are cut off from their own feelings are often unable to empathize with others.

10- Don't complain. There is nothing worse than a chronic complainer or whiner. If you simply have to vent about something, save it for your diary. If you must verbalize your grievances, vent to your personal friends and family, and keep it short. Spare those around you, or else you’ll get a bad reputation.

Starting and managing a business takes motivation, desire, talent, research and planning. The purpose of any business that’s operated by a Christian should be to glorify God, not just to make a profit.

If you’re more concerned with pursuing riches than serving God, you cease to be useful to God. "No one can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and wealth"(Matthew 6:24).

Like a chess game, success in small business requires decisive and correct moves, so develop a plan.

Get started by listing your reasons for wanting to go into business.


Determine the type of business that is right for you, based on your talents, skills, time availability, and interests.


Identify the niche your business would fill.


Develop a pre-business checklist to answer questions about location, finances, insurance, equipment and supply needs, and legal structure.


Establish a budget, even if your idea is several years in the future. Be cautious about borrowing to start any new venture.


Never borrow against your home or retirement account. Don’t deplete savings accounts, or cash in IRAs or cash savings bonds to fund new ventures. Debt makes it difficult for a new business to break even. If God wants you to develop this idea, He will provide a way to finance it without having to jeopardize your future.
Existing business
If you are interested in purchasing an existing business, it’s best to have a lot of experience in that business. Carefully examine the records and books. This is very important and would be worth the money an accountant may charge for this service.

Determining the value of a business is very difficult and what a business is actually worth seldom brings that price. In addition to property value (get three fair market appraisals) and the cost of inventory, the business worth should be about four times its net yearly earnings. After deducting your salary, a business should be able to pay itself off in 5 to 7 years. If it can’t, it’s probably overpriced and not a good buy.

Home based business
Before becoming involved with any home-based venture:

Get the names of the principals of the business opportunity and the home office of the company.


Contact the Better Business Bureau in the state where they are located and the attorney general or the state securities office of that state. Ask if any complaints have been filed against the company before you make any decision to become a part of that company.


God knows your needs and the desires of your heart. Trust Him to show you the business that will fit your talents and needs and will honor His name.
Starting your own business can be very challenging and rewarding. If you are successful it gives you a chance to take control of your future, achieve a great sense of personal satisfaction, and reap financial rewards.

But remember, in order to be successful in the eyes of the Lord, the business must be established for the purpose of glorifying and honoring Him.

I am dedicating it to a friend, because of her past on child abuse with her father and she finds it hard to forgive her father and others too out-there who finds hard to forgive the ones who hurt them. Many people ruin their health and their lives by taking the poison of unforgiveness,bitterness, and resentment. Matthew 18:23-35 tells us that if we do not forgive people, we get turned over to the torturers. If you have a problem in this area or have ever had one, I’m sure you bear witness with what I’m saying. It’s torture to have hateful thoughts toward another person rolling around inside your head.

Ways of Helping Yourself and Others

Who are you helping most when you forgive the person who hurt you? Actually, you’re helping yourself more than the other person. I always looked at forgiving people who hurt me as being really hard. I thought it seemed so unfair for them to receive forgiveness when I had gotten hurt. I got pain, and they got freedom without having to pay for the pain they caused. Now I realize that I’m helping myself when I choose to forgive.

I’m also helping the other person by releasing them so God can do what only He can do. If I’m in the way—trying to get revenge or take care of the situation myself instead of trusting and obeying God—He has no obligation to deal with that person. However, God will deal with those who hurt us if we’ll put them in His hands through forgiveness. The act of forgiving is our seed of obedience to His Word. Once we’ve sown our seed, He is faithful to bring a harvest of blessing to us one way or another.

Another way that forgiveness helps me is that it releases God to do His work in me. I’m happier and feel better physically when I’m not filled with the poison of unforgiveness. Serious diseases can develop as a result of the stress and pressure that difficult to accept, ill feeling
and unforgiveness put on a person. Mark 11:22-26 clearly teaches us that unforgiveness hinders our faith from working. The Father can’t forgive our sins if we don’t forgive other people. We reap what we sow. Sow mercy, and you’ll reap mercy; sow judgment, and you’ll reap judgment. So do yourself a favor and forgive.

There are still more benefits of forgiveness. Your fellowship with God flows freely when you’re willing to forgive, but it gets blocked by unforgiveness. Forgiveness also keeps Satan from getting an advantage over us (see 2 Corinthians 2:10,11). Ephesians 4:26,27 tells us not to let the sun go down on our anger or give the devil any such foothold or opportunity. Remember that the devil must have a foothold before he can get a stronghold. Do not help Satan torture you. Be quick to forgive.

I also think it’s hard to hate one person but love another. It’s hard to treat anybody right when our heart isn’t right. Even people you want to love may be suffering from your resentment, bitterness and unforgiveness.

Three ways on How to Forgive

Would you like to become more successful at forgiving others? There are practical steps that must be taken. One time I asked the Lord why so many people want to forgive but aren’t successful doing it. And He said, "Because they aren’t obeying what I tell them to do in My Word." As I searched the Word, I found the following instructions:

1. chooose– You will never forgive if you wait until you feel like it. Decide to obey God and steadfastly resist the devil in his attempts to poison you with bitter thoughts. Make a quality decision to forgive, and God will heal your wounded emotions in due time (see Matthew 6:12,14).

2. Be contingent– You cannot forgive without the power of the Holy Spirit. It’s too hard to do on your own. If you are truly willing, God will enable you, but you must humble yourself and cry out to Him for help. In John 20:22,23 Jesus breathed on the disciples and said, “Receive the Holy Spirit!” His next instruction was about forgiving people. Ask God to breathe the Holy Spirit on you so you can forgive those who’ve hurt you.

3. Be controlled– The Word tells us several things we’re to do concerning forgiving our enemies:

a. Pray for your enemies and those who abuse and misuse you. Pray for their happiness and welfare (see Luke 6:27,28). As you pray, God can give them revelation that will bring them out of deception. They may not even be aware they hurt you, or maybe they’re aware but are so self-centered that they don’t care. Either way, they need revelation.

b. …Bless and do not curse them (Romans 12:14). In the Greek to bless means "to speak well of" and to curse means "to speak evil of." You can’t walk in forgiveness and be a gossip. You must stop repeating the offense. You can’t get over it if you continue to talk about it. Proverbs 17:9 says that he who covers an offense seeks love.

Between You Two Who Should Forgive?

Forgive the person who badly hurt you long ago and also the stranger who stepped on your toe in the grocery store. Take those two extremes and forgive them in addition to everyone in between. Forgive quickly. The quicker you do it, the easier it is. Forgive freely. Matthew 10:8 says, …Freely you have received, freely give (NKJV). Forgive means “to excuse a fault, absolve from payment, pardon, send away, cancel, and bestow favor unconditionally.”

When you forgive, you must cancel the debt. Do not spend your life paying and collecting debts. Hebrews 10:30 says that vengeance belongs to the Lord; He’ll repay and settle the cases of His people. Let God pay you for past injustices. Do not try to collect from the people who hurt you, because the people who hurt you can’t pay you.

Also, forgive yourself for past sins and hurts you have caused others. You can’t pay people back, so ask God to.

Forgive God if you are angry with Him because your life didn’t turn out the way you thought it should. God is always just. There may be things you don’t understand, but God loves you, and people make a serious mistake when they don’t receive help from the only One who can truly help them.

You may even need to forgive a situation or an object—the post office, bank, a certain store that may have cheated you, a car that always gave you trouble, etc. Get rid of all poison that comes from difficult to accept, annoyed
and unwilling to forgive. And remember Proverbs 4:23: Keep and guard your heart with all vigilance...for out of it flow the springs of life.

Unforgiveness is spiritual filthiness, so get washed in the water of God’s Word to forgive and stay clean.

mal à pardonner
Translated into French by: I AM WHAT I THINK I AM
Je le consacre à mon amie en raison de son passé sur la pédophilie avec son père et elle a du mal à pardonner son père et d'autres trop l'out-there qui trouve dur pour pardonner ceux qui les blessent. Beaucoup de personnes ruinent leur santé et leurs vies en prenant le poison de mal à pardonner, de l'amertume, et du ressentiment. 18:23 de Matthew - 35 nous indique que si nous ne pardonnons pas des personnes, nous obtenons retournés aux tortionnaires. Si vous avez un problème dans ce secteur ou avez jamais eu un, je suis sûr que vous témoignez avec ce que je dis. C'est torture pour avoir des pensées détestables vers une autre personne roulant autour à l'intérieur de votre tête.

Manières de s'aider et d'autres

Qui êtes-vous aidant les la plupart quand vous pardonnez la personne qui vous blessent ? En fait, vous vous aidez davantage que l'autre personne. J'ai toujours regardé les personnes pardonnantes qui m'ont blessé en tant qu'étant vraiment dures. J'ai pensé qu'il a semblé si injuste que elles reçoivent la rémission quand j'étais devenu blessé. J'ai obtenu la douleur, et ils ont obtenu la liberté sans devoir payer la douleur qu'ils ont causée. Maintenant je me rends compte que je m'aide quand je choisis de pardonner.

J'aide également l'autre personne par la libération de eux ainsi Dieu peut faire ce que seulement il peut faire. Si je suis dans le manière-essai d'obtenir la vengeance ou de prendre soin de la situation moi-même au lieu de la confiance et d'obéir Dieu-il n'a aucune obligation d'avoir affaire avec cette personne. Cependant, Dieu aura affaire avec ceux qui nous blessent si nous les mettrons dans des ses mains par la rémission. L'acte de pardonner est notre graine d'obéissance à son mot. Une fois que nous avons semé notre graine, il est fidèle pour nous apporter une moisson de la bénédiction d'une manière ou d'une autre.

Une autre manière que la rémission m'aide est qu'elle libère Dieu pour effectuer son travail dans moi. Je suis plus heureux et sentir meilleur physiquement quand je ne suis pas rempli de poisonmal à pardonner . Les maladies sérieuses peuvent se développer en raison de l'effort et faire pression sur cela difficile à accepter, sentiment malade
et mal à pardonner mis sur une personne. 11:22 de marque - 26 nous enseigne clairement que l'unforgiveness gêne notre foi du travail. Le père ne peut pas pardonner nos péchés si nous ne pardonnons pas d'autres personnes. Nous récoltons ce que nous semons. Semer la pitié, et vous récolterez la pitié ; semer le jugement, et vous récolterez le jugement. Se faire ainsi une faveur et le pardonner.

Il restent plus d'avantages de la rémission. Votre camaraderie avec des écoulements de Dieu librement quand vous êtes disposé à pardonner, mais elle obtient bloquée par mal à pardonner. La rémission garde également Satan d'obtenir un avantage par rapport à nous (voir les 2 2:10,11 de Corinthiens). Le 4:26,27 d'Ephesians nous indique pour ne pas laisser le soleil aller vers le bas sur notre colère ou donner au diable un tel équilibre ou occasion. Se rappeler que le diable doit avoir un équilibre avant qu'il puisse obtenir un bastion. Ne pas aider la torture de Satan vous. Être rapide pour pardonner.

Je pense également qu'il est difficile de détester une personne mais d'aimer des autres. Il est difficile à traiter quiconque bien quand notre coeur n'est pas exact. Même les gens que vous voulez aimer peuvent souffrir de votre ressentiment, amertume et unforgiveness.

Trois manières sur la façon dont pardonner

aimez-vous remporter un grand succès plus sur à pardonner d'autres ? Il y a des mesures pratiques qui doivent être prises. Une fois j'ai demandé au seigneur pourquoi tant de personnes veulent pardonner mais être non réussi le faisant. Et il a dit, " ; Puisqu'ils n'obéissent pas ce que je leur dis de faire dans mon Word." ; Car j'ai recherché le mot, j'ai trouvé les instructions suivantes :

1. chooose- que vous ne pardonnerez jamais si vous attendez jusqu'à ce que vous vous sentiez comme lui. Décider d'obéir Dieu et de résister immuablement au diable dans le sien essaye de vous empoisonner avec des pensées amères. Prendre une décision de qualité pour pardonner, et Dieu guérira vos émotions blessées en temps voulu (voir le 6:12,14 de Matthew).

2. Être contingent vous ne peut pas pardonner sans puissance du Saint-Esprit. Il est trop difficile de faire sur vos propres. Si vous êtes vraiment disposé, Dieu vous permettra, mais vous devez s'humilier et pleurer dehors à lui pour l'aide. En 20:22,23 de John Jésus a respiré sur les disciples et dit, « recevoir le Saint-Esprit ! » Sa prochaine instruction était au sujet des personnes pardonnantes. Demander à Dieu de respirer le Saint-Esprit sur toi ainsi vous pouvez pardonner ceux qui vous ont blessé.

3. Être commandé le mot nous dit plusieurs choses que nous devons pour faire au sujet de pardonner nos ennemis :

a. Prier pour vos ennemis et ceux qui vous maltraitent et abusent. Prier pour leur bonheur et bien-être (voir le 6:27,28 de Luc). Comme vous priez, Dieu peut leur donner la révélation qui les apportera hors de la déception. Ils peuvent même ne pas se rendre compte qu'ils vous blessent, ou peut-être ils se rendent compte mais sont si égocentriques qu'ils ne s'inquiètent pas. L'une ou l'autre manière, ils ont besoin de révélation.

b. … Les bénir et ne pas maudire (12:14 de Romains). Dans le Grec pour bénir le " de moyens ; pour parler l'of" bon ; et pour maudire le " de moyens ; pour parler le mal of." ; Vous ne pouvez pas marcher dans la rémission et être un bavardage. Vous devez cesser de répéter l'offense. Vous ne pouvez pas obtenir au-dessus de elle si vous continuez à parler de elle. Le 17:9 de proverbes indique qu'il qui couvre un amour de recherches d'offense.

Entre toi deux qui devrait pardonner ?

Pardonner la personne qui mal

As a human you probably never thought about where you were getting your water from. Chances are you drank water out of the garden hose on hot days, from the drinking fountain at school, and right from the bathroom faucet at home.


I wish it were true that all water was safe wherever it came from, and that our bodies would naturally filter out the “bad stuff.” But unfortunately, that is not the way it works. When we drink water containing harmful substances, they end up in our bodies and can damage our health.

Just a few decades ago, a fifty-foot well yielded pure water free of contaminants, chemicals and other toxic substances. But today, even wells 200 feet deep may not provide pure water! Water straight from the tap may contain toxins, heavy metals, pesticides, bacteria and other microbes. And in most cities, two chemicals that are also toxic to our bodies are actually added to the water supply: fluoride ‘ to help prevent tooth decay’ and aluminum ‘to help remove organic material from drinking water’.

Since drinking enough of the right kind of water is vital for maintaining good health, it is important to find an alternative to tap water. Two easily accessible options are bottled and filtered water. Here are some guidelines for choosing from the many options available.


DO YOU KNOW IF BOTTLED WATER IS BETTER?

According to the Beverage Marketing Corporation, growth in the bottled water industry is “unparalleled.” In fact, it is now the second most popular beverage in the United States behind soft drinks! But the question is: Is it really any better than water from the faucet? The answer is, not necessarily.

Bottled water is actually less regulated than tap water and can be just as toxic. The only requirement placed on bottled water in the western world like the U.S is that it be as safe as tap water. The truth is, according to government and industry estimates, about one fourth of bottled water is tap water! As long as producers meet the FDA’s standards for distilled or purified water, they do not even have to disclose their source.

The other problem with bottled water is that the plastic it’s stored in tends to leach into the water over time. Plasticizers are the main pollutant in the human body. If you drink from plastic bottles, store them in the refrigerator and do not reuse the bottle. Heat tends to release the plasticizers from the plastic bottle. You can also purchase bottled water in glass bottles.


HOW DO YOU DECIDE WATER FILTERS ?

Another option for getting good drinking water is to treat your water with some type of water filter. Among the options are filtration pitchers, faucet-mounted carbon filters, full-home filtration systems, reverse-osmosis under-the-counter systems, and distillation. These may sound mysterious and expensive, but a good water filter probably costs less than many people currently spend monthly on soft drinks.


1- Carbon Filters
Carbon filters are the entry-level filters; they’re inexpensive, reliable and common. They come in a pitcher form, can be mounted on your faucet, or attached near the main water source of your home to filter all your water. They remove most chlorine and 90 percent of the lead. However, many other toxins are not filtered out. It’s an inexpensive but incomplete option.

2- Water Distillers
Water distillers are extremely effective at removing every­thing. Unfortunately, they even remove good minerals. Distilled water is absorbent water, meaning it absorbs carbon dioxide from your body, making it acidic. Although you won’t have anything bad in your water, distilled water can adversely affect your health by contributing to an acidic internal environment.

3- Osmosis-Reverse Filters
In terms of price, reverse-osmosis systems are the “optimum level” of water filters. However, like distillers, they remove virtually everything from your water and end up making it acidic, which in turn may make your body tissue acidic. Nevertheless, both distilled and reverse-osmosis are the purest forms of water. If you use these filters, make sure you take adequate minerals and consider adding an alkaline booster to your water.

4- Alkaline Water Filters
You can create alkaline water by using an alkalizing filter. Alkalizing filters are particularly beneficial because our bodies thrive in an alkaline environment. This environment allows our bodies to detoxify more efficiently than an acidic environment. Most Americans have an acidic body environment due to drinking acidic water, eating acidic foods and being under a lot of stress. As a result, toxins, which cause various health issues, may build up in our bodies. Drinking alkaline water can help bring your tissue back to an alkaline state.

Some alkalizing filters also make water clustered, or “hexagonal,” meaning that at a molecular level it is denser, richer and more energetic. Clustered water moves more easily within the body and aids nutrient absorption and waste removal.

I encourage you to research the benefits of each filter for yourself. Keep in mind that even the least efficient and inexpensive type of filter is better than no filter at all. Remember, we are water beings; approximately 2/3 of our body is water. Prayerfully decide what alternative source of pure water is best for you and start drinking it on a regular basis.

THE COST AND THE KIND OF WATER
Translated into Arabic by: I AM WHAT I THINK I AM


As a human you probably never thought about where you were getting your water from. Chances are you drank water out of the garden hose on hot days, from the drinking fountain at school, and right from the bathroom faucet at home.


I wish it were true that all water was safe wherever it came from, and that our bodies would naturally filter out the “bad stuff.” But unfortunately, that is not the way it works. When we drink water containing harmful substances, they end up in our bodies and can damage our health.

Just a few decades ago, a fifty-foot well yielded pure water free of contaminants, chemicals and other toxic substances. But today, even wells 200 feet deep may not provide pure water! Water straight from the tap may contain toxins, heavy metals, pesticides, bacteria and other microbes. And in most cities, two chemicals that are also toxic to our bodies are actually added to the water supply: fluoride ‘ to help prevent tooth decay’ and aluminum ‘to help remove organic material from drinking water’.

Since drinking enough of the right kind of water is vital for maintaining good health, it is important to find an alternative to tap water. Two easily accessible options are bottled and filtered water. Here are some guidelines for choosing from the many options available.


DO YOU KNOW IF BOTTLED WATER IS BETTER?

According to the Beverage Marketing Corporation, growth in the bottled water industry is “unparalleled.” In fact, it is now the second most popular beverage in the United States behind soft drinks! But the question is: Is it really any better than water from the faucet? The answer is, not necessarily.

Bottled water is actually less regulated than tap water and can be just as toxic. The only requirement placed on bottled water in the western world like the U.S is that it be as safe as tap water. The truth is, according to government and industry estimates, about one fourth of bottled water is tap water! As long as producers meet the FDA’s standards for distilled or purified water, they do not even have to disclose their source.

The other problem with bottled water is that the plastic it’s stored in tends to leach into the water over time. Plasticizers are the main pollutant in the human body. If you drink from plastic bottles, store them in the refrigerator and do not reuse the bottle. Heat tends to release the plasticizers from the plastic bottle. You can also purchase bottled water in glass bottles.


HOW DO YOU DECIDE WATER FILTERS ?

Another option for getting good drinking water is to treat your water with some type of water filter. Among the options are filtration pitchers, faucet-mounted carbon filters, full-home filtration systems, reverse-osmosis under-the-counter systems, and distillation. These may sound mysterious and expensive, but a good water filter probably costs less than many people currently spend monthly on soft drinks.


1- Carbon Filters
Carbon filters are the entry-level filters; they’re inexpensive, reliable and common. They come in a pitcher form, can be mounted on your faucet, or attached near the main water source of your home to filter all your water. They remove most chlorine and 90 percent of the lead. However, many other toxins are not filtered out. It’s an inexpensive but incomplete option.

2- Water Distillers
Water distillers are extremely effective at removing every­thing. Unfortunately, they even remove good minerals. Distilled water is absorbent water, meaning it absorbs carbon dioxide from your body, making it acidic. Although you won’t have anything bad in your water, distilled water can adversely affect your health by contributing to an acidic internal environment.

3- Osmosis-Reverse Filters
In terms of price, reverse-osmosis systems are the “optimum level” of water filters. However, like distillers, they remove virtually everything from your water and end up making it acidic, which in turn may make your body tissue acidic. Nevertheless, both distilled and reverse-osmosis are the purest forms of water. If you use these filters, make sure you take adequate minerals and consider adding an alkaline booster to your water.

4- Alkaline Water Filters
You can create alkaline water by using an alkalizing filter. Alkalizing filters are particularly beneficial because our bodies thrive in an alkaline environment. This environment allows our bodies to detoxify more efficiently than an acidic environment. Most Americans have an acidic body environment due to drinking acidic water, eating acidic foods and being under a lot of stress. As a result, toxins, which cause various health issues, may build up in our bodies. Drinking alkaline water can help bring your tissue back to an alkaline state.

Some alkalizing filters also make water clustered, or “hexagonal,” meaning that at a molecular level it is denser, richer and more energetic. Clustered water moves more easily within the body and aids nutrient absorption and waste removal.

I encourage you to research the benefits of each filter for yourself. Keep in mind that even the least efficient and inexpensive type of filter is better than no filter at all. Remember, we are water beings; approximately 2/3 of our body is water. Prayerfully decide what alternative source of pure water is best for you and start drinking it on a regular basis.